Homosexuality

This is not a fashion or style post. This is something more important.
Because of the recent voting results in Ireland for the right of same sex marriage and the parades that took place in this time of the year, the subject of LGBT has yet again been a major subject in the media.
I want to share my opinion :

About 10 years ago, when I was in high school, in Spain, there was a kid that later on I found out he was gay. I never talked to him or anything, he was not in my class but I do know he was a nice person and pretty smart. I never saw or heard about anyone in the school (at least not on school time) that would bully him about his orientation. I later found out that he came out to his parent and they were so upset that they kicked him out of the house ! He was staying with friends because his own parents would not let him in the house. And he was still a minor !
When I heard this it impacted me more than I could ever imagine. For me it was unthinkable, unacceptable. It was the first time I heard about this kind of issues. I just couldn't wrap my head around the fact that his own parent did not accept him for who he is and he got more support from strangers.

I did my research about homosexuality and because I didn't knew much about it at the time (no internet at home). I just couldn't understand why people are so hateful towards them. Even my parents were open minded and supportive, and they come from small rural areas in Romania.
Even my grandparent are accepting and sportive of LGBT community after we talked to them and explain what it means.


What is homosexuality ?
I'm just amazed of the stupidity. It seams that so many have no fucking idea what it is. Even after all this time, many people think it's a disease. Or demon possession.  WTF ?
You don't really have to struggle for the info now, everything is online and just the wikipedia page for homosexuality has a lot of clear information. And I quote '' ...They (scientists) favor biologically-based theories, which point to genetic factors, the early uterine environment, both, or the inclusion of genetic and social factors. ... While some people hold the view that homosexual activity is unnatural, scientific research has shown that homosexuality is an example of a normal and natural variation in human sexuality and is not in and of itself a source of negative psychological effects. Most people experience little or no sense of choice about their sexual orientation, and there is insufficient evidence to support the use of psychological interventions to change sexual orientation.''

Another missconception is that this is something new. Really ? Have those people even learn history ?
Same sex relations are around since ever. In the ancient Greece, Asia, even in Mesopotamia. Everywhere, in all cultures. The first record of a homosexual couple was  in 2400 BCE in ancient Egypt.

The native Americans called them ''two spirit people' because it was believed the are in touch with both sides, the feminine and masculine and they were important shamans. As kids they had to choose a path and their parents would raise him/her as such. So homosexuals were generally respected and accepted into society in the ancient world.
And we call ourselves civilized.

And if you think only humans can be gay well, here's a surprise : homosexuality has been documented in over 500 species !
This means that even animals are more accepting than humans. Calling us superior to animals is sometimes an overstatement.

Religion has made homosexuality a sin. No surprise here, religion makes many natural things 'sins' just because it suits their purpose.  But I don't want to get into this too much. The thing is that nowadays in many countries gays have a really hard time because people follow a religion above morality and ethics.
In the Roman Empire after Christianity took over there were death penalties for homosexuals (they were burned alive actually) and ''the Christian emperors Constantius and Constans declared same-sex marriage to be illegal.''
Even now in 2015 homosexuality is punished by death in 8 countries ! In other aprox. 50 countries it's considered a crime (but not punished by death, or so they say).

In the USA and Europe we like to consider ourselves more emancipated and open minded and some states and countries have legalized after all this time, same sex marriages, this are small successes but there's still very much work left to do.
The suicide rates among LGBT are very high, the violence and hate is still strong. Depression is very common. Kids are scared to come out even to their parents. Many have to live a life of lies and not be who they are because it is not allowed.


Gay marriage also known as marriage. 
In most of the world this is illegal. It's illegal just because religion says so, there's no other reason.
Marriage is about spiritual connection and legal aspects. The spiritual part is pretty self explanatory and and it's easier to accomplish (any spiritual priest or guru or whatever can do a hand-fasting/union)
The major problem is the legal aspect. Why?
Because let's say there's a gay couple, they've been together for 30 years but are not legally bonded. If one of the gets in an serious accident for example and he's in a comma kept alive by machines, the partner has no say in it because they are not consider next of kin as a spouse might be. Which is totally unfair.

What about adoption ?
If you are to lazy to do the research I'll quote again from our lovely wikipedia :
'' Scientific research has been generally consistent in showing that lesbian and gay parents are as fit and capable as heterosexual parents, and their children are as psychologically healthy and well-adjusted as children reared by heterosexual parents.According to scientific literature reviews, there is no evidence to the contrary.
A review study suggested that the children with lesbian or gay parents appear less traditionally gender-typed and are more likely to be open to homoerotic relationships, ..., even though majority of children raised by same-sex couples identify as heterosexual. A 2005 review by Charlotte J. Patterson for the American Psychological Association found that the available data did not suggest higher rates of homosexuality among the children of lesbian or gay parents.''

The only problem with LGBT is homophobia. 
The only psychological disease that occur are the ones inflicted by the families that don't accept them, the bullies, the social prejudice, the legal injustice and all the hate towards them.


Don't be an asshole !

There are many more things to say about this subject but my time is limited and the information is already on the internet for those who want to learn. This hate comes from the lack of knowledge and lack of education, we always hate the unknown.

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